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Hi Friends,

This issue of Dear Indie is all about friendship.  I decided to make it extra special and hit you with a double whammy: TWO QUESTIONS, ONE COLUMN!  Sounds hot, right?  Well, it is!  Get into it!


“Dear Indie,

I have a friend who is need and I want to send her some money, but I am afraid to because she is proud…I don’t want to insult her! How should I go about giving in this situation?”

Hey Gurl,

As a Sister of Perpetual Indulgence, I’m all about giving money to those in need so you came to the right place.  It seems that you mean well: your friend needs help and you want to ease her suffering.  My advice would be to go ahead and give her some financial assistance, with these very important caveats – do not expect her to pay you back and don’t hold it over her head.

If you’re going to give to someone, you should do so freely, with no expectations of reciprocation.  If you can handle that, I say drop some coins on her.  But if you expect it to be returned and/or never let her forget what you did for her, you could cause some serious problems in your relationship…you may even lose her as a friend and trust me, money just isn’t worth it.  You can always pull an extra shift and make that back but you may not get another friend like her.

On a totally unrelated note: I like diamonds.  Just saying.

Your Gurl,

Sister Indica


“Dear Indie,

A good friend just moved to CA three months ago.  I am very happy for her, but I am jealous. I tried not to talk while I was upset but now I am not sure how to get back in touch. I’d like to but I feel stuck. Any advice?”

Hey Gurl,

Thanks for writing to me!  I have had my share of strained relationships over the years so I can certainly relate to your situation.  However, experience has jaded me so you may not like what I have to say.

Let me make sure I get this right…your friend moved to California and you’re jealous so you stopped talking to her (but you’re totes happy for her) and now you want to get back in touch, after months of silence? Gurl…I’m not sure this girl needs a friend like you!  Your actions come off very petty and immature.  I say leave the ball her in court and let her be the one to decide if she wants you in her life.  She did nothing wrong after all – she just moved!

Leave that jealousy behind…it’s the worst look and no one wants a jealous friend. You may also want to do some soul-searching to see if this a trait you apply to other relationships.  I don’t want you to end up alone – that shit chases people away.

Your Gurl,

Sister Indica

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