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I’m in like with a man who treats me like a princess when we’re together. But I’m going thru sum things and been a witch. Opine?”
Thanks for your question! I’ve been itching to give some Sisterly advice so I’m glad you reached out.
So you have a man treating you right and you’re pushing him away with your witchy behavior? Girl! Do you know how many lonely people are gathering their pitchforks and coming for you right now?! Not me – I have a man but still…there are so many people who would love to be in this position.
From your question, it appears you aren’t ready for whatever is going on between you two. I mean, you’re “in like” not even “in love”. This would be fine for a middle school crush but you’re grown.
You also said you’re going through some things. Those things are keeping you from going to the next level in this relationship and keeping you idling on “like”. Is that fair for either of you? What this relationship needs is a heavy dose of open communication.
You: “Look, I’m going through some stuff, I realize as a result I’ve been lashing out at you…let’s take things slower – or take a break – until I can be the kind of partner you deserve.”
I think he’ll appreciate the honesty and respect you for being so mature and such a great communicator. Otherwise you may push him away and he’ll think it has something to do with him, not knowing you’re struggling right now.
Who knows, your honesty and maturity may bring you closer together and gain you a partner who can support you through your issues. Try it, it’s worth a shot. And if you don’t think it is, then I say move on, on your own. Get yourself together and get back into the dating scene with a clear head and heart.
Your Homegurl for Life,
Would you like my advice? Is your man or woman doing you wrong? Family troubles? Need to get something off your chest? I’m here for all of it! Hit me up on SISTERINDICA.COM or Twitter and your question may be featured in an upcoming DEAR INDIE column!